This is a selfish post and I hope you can help me. My father-in-law passed away two weeks ago after spending most of this year in a care center. He had dementia for years, so to me, his passing was an awaited awakening and release from his 81 year old body and mind.

My mother-in-law has joined “our” club. I am trying to figure out how to best support her as in some ways her widow experience is different than mine. My husband suddenly passed away at age 53. I have told her some of the “basics” about grief and time, but because of our different experiences, I don’t think I am covering everything I feel I need to cover. My questions for you this evening are, “How can I best support her in light of her different experience? What advice would you give her?”

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