Last week, I had dinner with a friend who came into my world after we were both widowed. I am about six months ahead of her. We spent three hours talking, laughing and crying (just me). We explored and discussed many, many aspects of widowhood: parenting, dating, knowing if our spouses are around, work, home, going through our husbands’ things, etc. I came away with some new perspectives and things to ponder.
My friend spoke of a widow/widower conference she attended and how one speaker urged attendees to do something “interesting” in their lives. My friend joined some other widows and went shooting. While everyone had different firearm experience, they were happy to do something interesting. We then discussed interesting things we wanted to do during this phase of our lives. For example, we would like to ride in a hot air balloon.
I did something interesting the day before the dinner with my widowed friend. I went to dinner with another friend and then did some (legal) shenanigans in the community. I will not disclose what we did, but I did end up having to crawl around in a stranger’s front yard. It was really fun and interesting.
Are you feeling like you are stuck in a rut? What is something interesting you can do in your life? Depending on where you are in your journey, interesting may be anything from skydiving (no thank you) to reading a book you have wanted to read to learning a new skill to finding a new service opportunity. Right now, I am in a community band and that is very interesting to me. I will be doing travelling later this year, having a great adventure. At some point, I want to learn how to quilt. The interesting keeps me focused on the future and not dwelling in the past.