As a new widow, one of the hardest things for me to do was learning to live in acceptance of what my new reality had become. I remember going places and looking at the families and thinking, “My family will never be like that family.”

I began to discover that acceptance of what is involved living my life in the present time or living moment to moment. Thinking about the past, or projecting into the future, did nothing to bring back my old life or take away my fear of the future.

As the years have passed, I have come to realize that my present life is different. It’s not better or worse – just different. Finding joy and hope in what is can be a struggle, as you come to terms with the loss of your husband. I believe that if you can just hold on and face your grief without judgment or denial you just might be able to come to a place of acceptance, hope and joy.image