What is your thought process when you add the numbers 23 and 37 together? Some will say that 3+7 is 10, 20+30 is 50, and 50+10=60. Others will count up from 23 by 10’s three times (23…33, 43, 53) and then add 53+7 which equals 60. I am sure there are other ways too.
Ever driven to the store one way, but then taken a different route on the way home?
Remember in Forrest Gump when Bubba raved on and on about the many ways to eat shrimp? Let me refresh your memory. “You can barbecue it, boil it, broil it, bake it, and saute it. There’s shrimp kebabs, shrimp Creole, shrimp gumbo. Pan-fried, deep-fried, stir-fried. There’s pineapple shrimp, lemon shrimp, coconut shrimp, pepper shrimp, shrimp soup, shrimp stew, shrimp salad, shrimp and potatoes, shrimp burger, shrimp sandwich.” That’s 21 different ways to eat shrimp. Have you eaten shrimp more than one way? How about potatoes, broccoli, or apples?
Of course, you have! So, you know, and can likely appreciate, that there is more than one way to do things. Yet so many of us often make others feel like there is only one way to do things? And by one way, I mean our way.
On this widow journey, I think we can all agree that there is more than one path to take. When it comes to wedding rings there are many choices one can make. Widows might choose to take their rings off, leave them on, wear it around their necks or on their right hand, or possibly create a new ring or necklace from their original.
A number of widows won’t get rid of a single thing that belonged to their husband. Many will part with some items, and still others won’t keep a single thing. They won’t even be able to have photos around. None of these choices are wrong. There is always more than one way to do things.
You might never, ever be able to date again. However, that doesn’t mean that no widow should ever do so. Or maybe you have found another love, and are happier than you have been in a long time. That doesn’t mean that others need to get out there and start dating.
I am fairly certain we would all agree that the world would be a boring place if everyone were exactly alike. So, I want to challenge each and every one of you to be more open to others doing things differently than you. Different is A-Okay! Obviously, anything that harms someone physically, spiritually, mentally or verbally is not okay, but other than that, encourage people to walk a different path than you.
And let’s be sure to be offering more empathy, kindness, encouragement, and support to others who are choosing to do things differently. We need to be handing those things out in spades to people at work, home, the grocery store,
on the internet, at church, school, the bank, the laundromat, restaurants, the DMV….you get the point. It doesn’t cost you a thing, and it looks good everywhere.
Get to spreading! 🙂