Ahhhh, February….the month of love. Stores are filled with reminders of this day. Red hearts are everywhere. The Hallmark Channel is celebrating Loveuary.
As widows, this can be a difficult holiday. One where we remember receiving sweet words, beautiful flowers, chocolates, and thoughtful gestures. Where we expressed our love to our husbands with cards that we carefully chose and wrote inside, dinners we prepared, and sweet desserts that we made.
How do we celebrate without them? Well, we can sit around and be upset about the fact that our loved ones aren’t here to celebrate with us anymore. We can pull out old cards to read and have a good cry. There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of that. I know I have done it before.
However, I propose we do something more than just that. Something different…something bold. I propose that we put big, gigantic smiles on our faces and share our love with all of the wonderful people in our lives.
Family, friends, co-workers…If they matter to you, celebrate Valentine’s Day with them. How? Give out cards, bake cookies to deliver, or get together for dinner. It doesn’t matter what you do, it just matters that you do something.
Do something to show others that you care deeply about them. Let them know that you still have plenty of love in your heart to give. Because we absolutely do!
I know it sometimes feels like our hearts stopped beating when our spouses did. However, they haven’t. Maybe some of us will never be in a romantic relationship again, and that is perfectly fine. Our hearts are still alive and beating, and we have so much love to give.
Thinking of my husband as being very much alive in spirit walking alongside me helps me. His heart may have stopped, but his soul did not. Choosing to think this way encourages me to keep moving forward. To keep living in amazing ways so that my husband can see me and feel happy and proud. I imagine him smiling proudly when I do something special for our children. I can hear his words when I do something kind and loving for others. How? Because he still lives in my heart, and your husband still lives in yours. Carry him forward. Share love with the world for both of you.
The world needs more love, kindness, and happiness. Let’s spread it like it’s going out of style. Let’s encourage others to do the same. Ladies, we’ve got this!
PS–If you do or are planning to spread some love and kindness, I would love to hear your plans. Your sharing may just encourage others to think of things that they can do for others. 😘
Today I had six ladies from church over for lunch: two young singles, one long divorced, two older and never married, one a long time widow, one legally separated. We had a wonderful time.
I guess I can’t count -make that 7 – lol
Love this! I’m certain a good time was had by all.
Thank you for this uplifting post. These words written by you and fellow widows has kept my head above water since my husband Michael’s 57 day battle/passing with stomach cancer in September 2021. Every day is a war to get through but these past holidays and now Valentine’s Day is especially tough. Thank you for speaking the words most of us are thinking and feeling every minute of every day.
You’re welcome, Laurie! Happy Valentine’s Day! Those firsts are especially difficult, so big hugs to you.