I’ve hit a new widowhood milestone.
Over the last few months, I’ve decided I’m tired of being a widow. In fact, I was over this adventure the first 30 days of living it. I’m tired of feeling like I live under a microscope. I’m tired of getting the side eye because I found love again. I’m tired of living up to others’ expectations. I’m tired of trying to fill a void that isn’t mine to fill.
But this isn’t a gym membership or an app we can cancel at any time. We don’t get a free trial to see if this life is for us. We didn’t sign up for this when we took our vows. We didn’t get divine intervention telling us what to do or not to do.
The truth is, we spend 90% of our time on the 10% of people who are usually the most negative.
And you know what?
Your job isn’t to explain your new life to them.
Your job isn’t to comfort them.
Your job isn’t to fill the shoes of your loved one.
You and your children do not need to fill the void they have in their life (we have Amazon and Starbucks for that 😉).
Your job isn’t to carry their grief. Yours has been heavy enough.
I encourage you to live life uninterrupted and unapologetic again.
Learn to set healthy boundaries.
Go on adventures.
Do something that terrifies you.
Live in the moment.
Let your children make new memories.
Fall in love.
Tear out a wall in your house if it makes you feel better.
Most importantly, learn to love your new life again.
You deserve it.