Grief is a journey unlike any other. It’s a winding path filled with unexpected twists and turns, highs and lows, and moments of both despair and hope. Each person’s journey through grief is unique, shaped by the nature of their loss, their individual coping mechanisms, and the support systems they have in place. There are many different pathways one may encounter, and how navigating them can lead to healing and transformation.

Shock and Denial:
The journey of grief often begins with a sense of shock and disbelief. When faced with a significant loss, whether it’s the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or a major life change, it can be difficult to accept the reality of what has happened. Denial may serve as a protective mechanism, allowing us to process the loss gradually, as we come to terms with the new reality.
Anger and Guilt:
As the shock begins to wear off, grief can give way to intense emotions such as anger and guilt. We may find ourselves questioning why the loss occurred, directing our anger towards others, ourselves, or even the universe. Guilt often accompanies these feelings, as we replay past actions or words and wonder if we could have done things differently. It’s important to recognize that these emotions are a natural part of the grieving process and to allow ourselves to feel them without judgment.
Bargaining and Depression:
In an attempt to regain control or make sense of the loss, we may enter a phase of bargaining. This can involve making deals with a higher power, seeking ways to reverse the loss, or attempting to negotiate a different outcome. However, when these efforts prove futile, they can lead to feelings of helplessness and despair, marking the onset of depression. During this phase, it’s crucial to seek support from loved ones or mental health professionals who can provide comfort and guidance.
Acceptance and Reconstruction:
As we move through the depths of grief, we gradually come to accept the reality of our loss. Acceptance does not mean forgetting or moving on from the person or thing we have lost, but rather integrating the loss into our lives in a way that allows us to continue living with purpose and meaning. This phase marks the beginning of reconstruction, as we rebuild our sense of self and identity in the wake of the loss. It involves finding new ways of coping, rediscovering joy and meaning, and moving forward with hope for the future.

The journey of grief is a complex and transformative process, marked by a range of emotions and experiences. While the path may be difficult and fraught with challenges, it also offers opportunities for growth, healing, and renewal. By acknowledging and honoring our feelings, seeking support from others, and allowing ourselves to navigate the various pathways of grief, we can emerge from the journey with a greater sense of resilience, compassion, and wisdom. Remember, grief is not a destination but a journey, and with time, patience, and self-compassion, we can find our way through the darkness and into the light of healing.


Pam was born and raised in Texas and is the oldest of her siblings. She has worked in education for over 15 years with the last two being a graphic design instructor.

In the spring of 2011, with both of them almost 41, lots of baggage between the two (which fondly became known as “the luggage”, Pam met her husband and soulmate Glenn and soon after they began to merge their families. The wonderful journey began but everyone always knew it had been destined.

Pam is a mom and bonus mom to five adult children (plus two wonderful son in laws), a grammy to five adventure seeking grands , and widow after Glenn passed away due to complications of a congenital heart condition on November 3, 2019.

Pam has often blogged, journaled, and spoke about all of the joys, ups and downs, and adventures of their life and has been encouraged by many to actually share with the world. She has begun a personal blog and soon will be publishing for all to enjoy.