Becoming a widow at the age of 43 changed my life forever. I was now faced with being alone in this world without the man that I waited and prayed for. I prayed for someone who was gentle, loving, kind, and caring; all of the qualities that were lacking in my first marriage. In 2015 God answered my prayers my Blessing me with a man who loved me just the way I was. He became my friend, my counselor, my strong supporter, and my lover. In 2019, on January 10th is when I took on the title widow. Now at the age of 45 most people tell me it is time for me to date again. That I am too young to be single., that I will find love again.” To date or not to date is the question” So trying to be optimistic I let me guard down, and tried to be open to dating, not thinking that I would love again, but willing to try. What I have learned is that my husband was one of a kind. Dating is right for me right now. I have tried to give it a chance, but it has not been a positive experience. After being loved unconditionally, I find it hard to settle for anyone. “To date or not to date is the question” When I think of dating, I know that I have to be fair, and allow the person to get to know me and my character. I remind myself that this person in not Kenneth so give him a chance. “To date or not to date is the question” Dating comes with all kinds of emotions, that we have to be prepared for. “To date or not to date is the question” Will this person love me with all of my imperfections? Will this person allow me to trust again? Will this person understand that I go to the cemetery often? Will this person understand that my heart is fragile? Will the person understand that I still need therapy to deal with my PTSD? Will the person understand that I want to be able to love them and trust them? Will the person understand that sometimes I will cry on those special moments that I shared with my husband? Will that person understand that I need him to be patient with me? “To date or not to date is the question” I have kissed enough frogs to last me a lifetime, so I do not need to go down that path again. “To date or not to date is the question” I have tried it, I did not like it, I came across some more frogs. “To date or not to date is the question” My answer to this question is simple, I will date again if it is a part of God’s Plan for my life. So, I will wait patiently and not rush into anything just to fill the empty space in my home, in my heart, and in my mind. “To date or not to date is the question” I will say to everyone reading this make sure dating is something that you want, and not what family, friends, and other people are telling you to do. Move in your own time, at your own pace, do what is right for you and your sanity. Do what makes you comfortable, do what makes you happy. As for me I will wait and not rush anything with anyone that is not compatible with me just for the sake of dating. I will wait patiently, and I will know when my heart is ready.
About Jamie Foster
Jamie Foster resides in Daphne, Alabama with her daughter and two grand puppies. On January 10, 2019 at 10:30 p.m. her life was shattered as the man that God kept for her suffered a heart attack in his sleep. A fairytale that began so beautifully just three years prior ended in tragedy. She made a statement two years before she started dating Rev. Kenneth Foster, as he preached a sermon at her church. She said to a friend, “I am going to marry Rev. Foster one day, and make him a very good wife”. Two years later, after about 4 dinner dates, Kenneth told her; that God showed him that she was his wife. They married a few months later on November 28, 2015. In three years, they lived out their wedding vows richer, poorer, sickness, health, and till death do us part.
She never imagined that she could feel so much pain in her entire body!! The love of her life the man she prayed for is now gone. She immediately began to question everything she knew, everything she believed in.
After Kenneth’s death, she had nothing else to hold on to but the Faith that they talked about, the Faith that he preached about. The road is a difficult one, but she pushes forward. On this journey, she has come in contact with women all over the world who share the same grief and the same pain that she does. She started to find comfort and joy in knowing that others understood her heartache and pain.
In 2021, she left her full-time job to focus on her Mental Health. She became the CEO of Foster & Foster H.R. Solutions, an Independent Insurance Agent, a blogger of Foundation of Truths, a Motivational Speaker, and she is penning the pages to a book that is long overdue.
Jamie always knew that her gift, was her powerful voice and she is walking in her purpose. It is to help encourage, motivate, inspire, and lift up all of her fellow sisters as we are all on this journey together. She lives each day no matter how hard, by the words of Jeremiah 29:11 “I know the plans he has for me”.
I became a widow at he age of 44. My husband contracted Covid and died. We were high school sweethearts. It’s been so hard to go on because we were always together. He was my best friend and the love of my life. He’s been gone 7 months and I’m going on my first date. I’m trying this out but I’m not sure how it’s going to end up. I know that no matter what happens, no one will ever replace my husband. He was one of a kind and very unique.
I took on the title of being a widow. In 2020. My husband of 17 years was shot and killed. He was my forever love. He was agret step father to our kids now there is 3 grandbabies and he isnt here to be apart of all the new stuff going on. I thought about dating ive tried it but he was jealous of be being still sad. He didnt want me to talk about my husband or see pics. So that didnt work i live in ky and i always. Promised my husband i would take him back home to Mississippi to bury him by his mom i long to go to his grave my car wont make it. My heart and soul is broken and lost. Who am i now i have no clue.
It’s been 3 years since Jim passed from a horrible accident at work. Unless it’s God’s will I don’t want to be alone the rest of my life. But my husband was my one & only for 41 years. I don’t know where to begin. How do I Date? Times have changed since 1970.
Thank you. I am walking this widow walk going on 3 years now and the aloneness still haunts me from time to time. I thought I had found a “friend” as I was not looking for someone to date. He is a preacher and lost his wife to cancer last fall. I was so thrilled as he was teaching me so much about a normal relationship and communication. I think I was making progress and then BAM! Only to find out from a lady friend that the preacher was afraid I was interested in a “relationship”. But I guess our communication wasn’t so good as he didn’t approach me and discuss his concern with me, just kind of cut me off. So this is where we are now and I am very hurt as I just wanted a friend…will probably take me quite awhile before I give anyone another chance. Very sad and depressing to me. Course we all have our issues. Too bad we can’t talk about expectations.