I am no longer new at this “new normal” thing. I’ve been a widow for over a dozen years now. There have been so many life stages experienced, raising 3 kids during these years. When Gary died, the kids were ...
Before I became a widow, I don’t remember hearing much about triggers. Possibly in relation to war veterans, but otherwise, not so much. Perhaps I was just living in my shiny, happy bubble. You seem to learn a whole new ...
It’s weird and very random (or is it?), the things we remember from childhood. I have a vivid memory of driving in the car with my mom and my sisters when she told us she had now had her married ...
It was recently suggested to me that perhaps I needed to forgive Gary for dying. I was incredulous. Of course I didn’t blame him for dying! “Can you tell him you forgive him?” I was asked. Of course I can!!! ...
It’s 100% true that becoming a widow-especially at a young age- affects every single aspect of your life. All of it. Nothing is left untouched. We tend to focus on the big stuff. Raising the kids. Dealing with finances on ...
New Year’s Eve was our holiday. We celebrated it together multiple times before we were a couple. We were each a “third wheel” to our best friends, who happened to be married to each other, and so became de facto ...
Anyone who has experienced loss knows how difficult holidays can be, and how traditions can be tricky beasts. For me, the first holiday season after Gary died fell a mere 3 months later. We were all still in shock. When ...