Throughout history, the debate has raged on about time and space. In 1788, Immanuel Kant published the Critique of Pure Reason, one of the most influential works in the history of philosophy of space and time. He puts forth the idea that humans use these concepts to bring structure to their experiences.

Time and space provide a point of reference upon which to understand and view the circumstances of your life, for example, before and after the death of your loved one.

But do they really exist? Could you be living your past, present and future lives all at the same time? Does this make death just a move to another dimension … thus, your loved one will always be with you?

Furthermore, can you pin time down? When you’re on the precipice of losing a loved one, time seems to move too quickly and you want to slow it down. Contrarily, after a loss, time seems to drag on.

The truth is that time is constant. It is only your perception that makes it move too fast or too slow. As Alan H. Cohen shares, “Eternity exists far beyond time, and reality exists far beyond space. Here and now are the portals.”

Consequently, the only thing we really have is the present. Make sure not to squander it. Instead, use it wisely and to your best advantage.

©Ellen Gerst, Author of Words of Comfort To Pave Your Journey of LossLove After Loss: Writing The Rest of Your Story, and Suddenly Single: How To Find Renewal After Loss