The phrase “It is what it is” is one that neither my husband nor I liked. It was so overused and misused. But, today, I came across it twice in my readings and thought maybe I should take another look, a different look.
The first time I read it was in C.S. Lewis’s book Mere Christianity. He was said it is nonsensical to ask, when talking about God Himself, if things could have been otherwise. He said, “It is what it is and there is an end to the matter.” I think that applies so well to widowhood. There is no changing, no going back in this journey I find myself in. All I can do is go forward. I don’t know why He took my husband so early, but I am not angry at God.
A bit later, the phrase popped up again while reading a few pages in A Widow’s Journey by Gayle Roper (for the second time). After a particularly hard day, she wrote, “I wish there was a time when the pain went away for good. But it is what it is, and I am where I am. Thank God that on days like today He is there to give balance, provide comfort, and offer hope.”
God has given me hope over and over through His Word. He has also used people to give me comfort. Through many various means He has brought other widows into my life to walk along this path together with me. He has stirred the hearts of old friends and knitted us closer together. He has put me in a church full of godly compassion and leadership.
So, as I enter 2022, I want to say it is what it is, I am where I am, He is who He is, and life can still be beautiful.