Right now, America is facing a pandemic. And that calls for social distancing. A polite way to say quarantine or social isolation. For so many widows, this means being all alone. Their spouse is dead. The person they would have relied on to keep them calm during the storm is no longer there. They are alone, truly isolated.
When you are widowed, you often find yourself isolated. Not because the government tells you to do so but often because people don’t know how to be around you. The invites to events stop. People keep their distance because you’re sad. Others avoid you because they simply just don’t know how to deal with grief. Social isolation is very real for many widows. And now it’s about to get even worse.
For many in the widow community, meetups, dinners, and events with other widows is the only form of socialization. And now they are being told to stop. To stay home. To avoid contact with people. For some, two weeks at home with nothing to do sounds like a blessing. For others, two weeks at home with nothing to do reminds you of how much you’ve lost. Makes your heart hurt even more.
And for those raising children without their partner, it means being the sole parent. Making all of the decisions. Trying to entertain your children 24/7. Managing your household. Without anyone to help you. Doing this on a daily basis is stressful enough, doing it in a pandemic can be downright terrifying.
So what can we do?
How can we take care of each other?
We can FaceTime or video chat.
Call and check in on each other.
Watch the same TV show or movie while on the phone with each other.
Play games together on the computer.
Read the same book and call each other to discuss it.
Send letters via snail mail or email.
Make plans for when we can get out and socialize again.
The most important thing is to take care of yourself and each other. This is a scary time. And for many widows they are facing it all alone. No one else in their home. Some adult conversation and interaction would be greatly appreciated. So please, let’s band together and take care of our community.
We are widow strong!