For almost seven years, I’ve been trying to figure out how to move forward with grief. I’ve been walking into rooms with it. Bringing it to work with me. Walking down the grocery aisle with it. Sitting on the couch ...
Do you ever find it harder than you expected to help another widow? Don’t get me wrong, I think there is an incredible unspoken sort of connection among widows because only those who have experienced this kind of pain can ...
At one point in the now-distant past, I became a certified yoga instructor. At the same time, Bret got his personal trainer certification, and the two of us were offered jobs at the same gym in San Antonio. Strife always ...
A gentleman with whom I was having a conversation the other day was lamenting the sale of his old car. He was saying things like how silly it was of him to have these kinds of feelings about a car, ...
When I first started blogging about my new life as a widow - a relatively young one at that - I wrote a lot about dating and relationships. There was a reason for that, and that reason was that I ...
Dear New Widow, I am so sorry that this loss of your husband has happened. I am sorry for all the pain and all the many long days ahead for you. I am sorry that life involves losing ...
Those trusty Facebook Memories hit me upside the head again today. These were really good memories, though; it wasn't anything that should've been upsetting. It was a recollection, rather, of how I was feeling during that good time. Sure, I ...
Loss has many faces. I thought it was just my husband’s face—the man I love and miss so dearly. It turns out loss is so much more. It’s the faces of those who left to join him—in my case… my ...
Not all that long ago, I was told by a co-worker, in so many words, that my positivity is "too much" for him. "I don't need you to be so positive around me," he said. I was almost speechless for ...
After becoming widowed, I realized I was mourning a lot more than the death of my husband. I was mourning the other things that he and his mental illness took from me. Yes, my husband took a lot from me, ...