Do you know that your husband still spends time around you? Do you know he loves you and is proud of you, and he guides you and encourages you regularly? Well I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that he in fact does, and always will. There are threads of unconditional love that connect you to all of your loved ones, and all of these threads create the beautiful tapestry we call life. Energy never dies, so when a soul leaves its body on the physical plane it only changes forms, and that thread remains intact and even strengthens. Your departed loved ones are still connected to you, still supporting and inspiring you, still helping to weave your tapestry daily. The relationship just looks a little different now.
Honestly, I’m not sure how people survive such a deep and life altering loss without this belief. Outside of our children, the only thing that holds me together most days is that thread. I have been fortunate enough to have had readings with mediums, and also to be a developing medium myself. Because of this, in many ways I am in constant and continued conversation with my husband, and some days it really does feel like death is just another room. Some days at least. Unfortunately, as a medium, it does not make me immune to the very human experience of the earth shattering, gut wrenching grief and heartache that I also feel every moment of the day. What it does do however, is give me the courageous ability to get up every day and move forward with him rather than move on from him. I’m still married, my husband just doesn’t have a physical body housing his spirit anymore. He’s in another room now. A room so close I can feel it and sometimes even see it, because heaven isn’t some far off place in the clouds, its right here with us every day, in another room.
I know as fellow widows you know the vast and hopeless canyon losing your spouse creates. But I know that your husband is with you every single day, just as much as mine is with me, and I want to let you know that you can learn his new language and learn how his presence feels now. We are all spirit and have the divine right and ability to communicate and connect with all souls, and you don’t need to be a professional medium to do it. With a little intentional practice and some patience, you will find he’s all around you every single day. And from experience, let me tell you, it’s transformative to feel his presence so near. It alleviates some of that pain and fills that canyon with love again. So while it’s so important to feel all of your emotions, even the heavy, hard and hopeless ones, what I encourage you to do is to find moments where you can transcend the hollow cavern of grief and vibrate in the joy of the unconditional and eternal love that those threads weave in your tapestry. When you can find these moments you’ll feel the magic that connects you, you’ll feel the hope he wants you to know is so alive. You’ll feel that thread tug at your heart in such an undeniable way that you’ll know, beyond the same shadow of a doubt that I do, that he is still so tangibly with you every single day and always will be.
As a recent widow, I am interested in learning mediumship. Can you give resources of where you are studying this ?
First off, my heart goes to you. The widowhood journey is not an easy one, however mediumship has helped me tremendously. I just started consuming all things mediumship from podcasts to books to youtube videos and everything in between. I also started following several mediums on social media platforms and consuming their content. I now am a part of a development circle to help further my practice before I open up to read for the public. I recommend checking out Laura Lynne Jacksons books, Spirit School podcast with Danielle Searancke, Medium in the Middle podcast with Stephanie, You Are Not Alone podcast with Erika Gabriel. If you follow them all on Instagram as well, they often have opportunities to sign up for courses or workshops with them. Danielle Searancke has a mentorship program. Medium John Holland also often has workshops you can sign up for. Aboriginal medium Shawn Leonard is also great and has a year long course you can sign up for in the fall. I hope this is helpful and I encourage you to check any (or all, and more) of these mediums out and see if any resonate with you. I also recommend incorporating meditation in to your day as a way to quiet your mind for spirit to come in.