The Greatest Gift You Can Give A Widow


Sometimes the greatest gift you can give a widow is asking her about her husband. Ask her sincerely. Ask and truly listen. Speak positively, kindly and reassuringly whenever it feels right.

If she tears up while telling you a sweet memory or a painful memory, it isn’t your fault. You didn’t “make her cry.” Your care and concern for her beloved and the life she shared with him shows your genuine care for her.

At times she may say it is too hard to reminisce. There may be certain things that are just too painful to speak of and she just isn’t able to put them to words. That is okay too. She isn’t going to be “mad at you” for asking.

The person that meant the most to her may not be here anymore, but her heart still feels he is just as important as ever before. Don’t exclude this part of her life from your conversations unless she has requested that you do so.

So what do I want to share now that I’ve survived nearly two years without my sweetheart Chris?

I want you to know that Chris was the sweetest, most self-less, forgiving, humble and hilarious person I have ever known.

He was the dearest and best of best friends I could ever have dreamed of. He was an incredibly loving, gentle, patient and devoted father.

We had more in common than any other person I have ever known.

I felt so safe in his love, as well as cherished, encouraged, and respected.

He made me laugh until I cried all the time.

He was my world.

Would you like to share about your husband?

What was he like?

What was special about your relationship together?

Your husband’s life and legacy matter.

Your love story and memories together matter.

In Hope & Prayers,

From This Widow Mama



Dorothy lost her beloved husband Oct 2021 to a very unexpected bacterial pneumonia that quickly became septic shock. Her other half and best friend was born with a serious congenital heart defect. Because of that, she had always feared the possibility of being a widow, but she thought it more likely to be due to his heart, and more likely when her husband was in his 50s after the children were grown. Instead, he graduated to heaven just one week before turning 34. Dorothy was 36 with young sons ages 5 and 16 months who adored their Daddy. In less than 48 hours, the life Dorothy and her beloved husband so carefully built together shattered. They were blessed to share just over 8 wonderful, joyous and fun years of marriage. While her heart is so thankful to God for having had their journey together, she has struggled since his death with feeling hurt and let down by God. She has felt so devastated that their love story was short and ended so abruptly. Join her as she shares her unfolding journey of grasping to faith in Christ as she journeys through love, loss, single parenthood, honoring her husband's legacy and guiding her sons through their grief and life without Daddy.