I love when a new year begins, it’s a time to spend time taking stock of yourself and the things that need to change. This year, my New Year resolution was to concentrate on self-care.
Self-care is a word that you hear a lot online, but what does that word mean? According to the dictionary, it means regard for one’s well-being, not in a narcissistic sort of way. As a widow and a Mom, my well-being has not always been a priority.
This year, I want to change that. I want to be more intentional about my relationships and my physical well-being. When I considered this topic, I realized that self-care will be different for every person.
- I visited a dermatologist who examined my skin and provided skincare recommendations. They supplied me with a list of lotions and products to address my dry skin.
I did something I would have never done before: I spent 50 dollars on ordering all the products she recommended. I am so glad I did because my skin has never been smoother.
- Saying yes to social situations.
I have been in and out of hospitals and doctors’ offices and have not had much opportunity to practice this goal. One thing I did was attend a virtual alumni meeting at my university. I shocked myself and had a great time. I look forward to doing more with this group.
- One goal I have not had a chance to do yet is to join a dating app.
Initially, the thought of dating anyone other than my late husband felt overwhelming. However, as my children have matured, I’ve understood that dating could benefit me and provide a positive example of relationships for them.
- My final, personal goal, though self-centered, is to learn how to apply makeup.
My three girls and I have some lip balm, but that is the only thing we have in the house for makeup. I do not want to wear a lot but learn how to enhance my face a little, and I want to drag my girls with me so we can all learn. We will never be the gals who spend 45 minutes putting on a face of makeup, but we can learn little things to enhance.
This list will probably be added as the year progresses, but it is a good start.
I do not regret a minute of the time I sewed into my kids; they were the priority, but I need to make myself a priority now, too.
We are worth the time to care for ourselves, and it is not selfish to put your needs first occasionally. I hope you make 2025 the year you remember that you are worth time and money.
