I love when a new year begins, it’s a time to spend time taking stock of yourself and the things that need to change. This year, my New Year resolution was to concentrate on self-care.
Self-care is a word that you hear a lot online, but what does that word mean? According to the dictionary, it means regard for one’s well-being, not in a narcissistic sort of way. As a widow and a Mom, my well-being has not always been a priority.
This year, I want to change that. I want to be more intentional about my relationships and my physical well-being. When I considered this topic, I realized that self-care will be different for every person.
- I visited a dermatologist who examined my skin and provided skincare recommendations. They supplied me with a list of lotions and products to address my dry skin.
I did something I would have never done before: I spent 50 dollars on ordering all the products she recommended. I am so glad I did because my skin has never been smoother.
- Saying yes to social situations.
I have been in and out of hospitals and doctors’ offices and have not had much opportunity to practice this goal. One thing I did was attend a virtual alumni meeting at my university. I shocked myself and had a great time. I look forward to doing more with this group.
- One goal I have not had a chance to do yet is to join a dating app.
Initially, the thought of dating anyone other than my late husband felt overwhelming. However, as my children have matured, I’ve understood that dating could benefit me and provide a positive example of relationships for them.
- My final, personal goal, though self-centered, is to learn how to apply makeup.
My three girls and I have some lip balm, but that is the only thing we have in the house for makeup. I do not want to wear a lot but learn how to enhance my face a little, and I want to drag my girls with me so we can all learn. We will never be the gals who spend 45 minutes putting on a face of makeup, but we can learn little things to enhance.
This list will probably be added as the year progresses, but it is a good start.
I do not regret a minute of the time I sewed into my kids; they were the priority, but I need to make myself a priority now, too.
We are worth the time to care for ourselves, and it is not selfish to put your needs first occasionally. I hope you make 2025 the year you remember that you are worth time and money.
About Cindy Schriver
In 2011, Cindy lost her husband of 16 years to a rare form of cancer after a
long and hard-fought battle. Left behind in the whirlwind of grief with three
adolescent children, Cindy had to learn to find herself again and how to
help herself and her children through the journey of grief. Knowing she had
to become the sole provider for her family, Cindy returned to college at 38,
earning a bachelor’s degree in Communications and a master’s degree in
Adult Education. Cindy is currently pursuing her Doctorate and is constantly
looking for new experiences.