What’s On Your Mind?


I wonder if there is something on your mind right now that I can help get answered for you – whether through my own experience, someone I know, resources or articles I’ve come across.

I wasn’t a questioner when widowhood entered my world. I’m not talking about questioning “why did this happen to me” but about asking questions about any and everything about widowhood. Questioning is so important in healing and I wish I had known that sooner.

A big part of me didn’t want to question at first because that required reaching out. I wasn’t ready to meet other widows – in person or online, for that meant everything that had happened to me was real and I couldn’t swallow that just yet.

It took my incredible psychologist to get me to open up so she could find out what was on my mind and help me sort through things. (Check out my posts on Finding The Right Pair Of Jeans and A Cup of Christmas Calm).

Once I was more comfortable talking about my grief I was ready to use a little courage, take inventory of my mind and start asking questions to demystify widowhood (as much as possible) and the grieving process.

A few things on my mind that I was ready to get answers to were: “Why do I see my husband’s face everywhere I go?”, “Why does my body feel so heavy all the time?”, “I feel like I’m grieving out of order according to the stages of grief – and what does that mean?”

I want to help you not feel so alone in your grief. So tell me dear friend, what’s on your mind?

Leave me a comment below or follow me on Instagram at @kellcann and send me a message there.  

(((warm hugs and love)))


My widow journey began in 2011 when I was 27. My late husband passed away from injuries sustained in a motorcycle accident. My re-entry into life has been difficult, but my relationship with God, being diagnosed with PTSD and my passion for music, dance and science have greatly helped me get back on my feet. I am currently preparing for graduate school and volunteer as an endometriosis educator for the Endometriosis Foundation of America.

I have so much that I look forward to sharing with you and I hope that you may find something in my writing that will bring hope to your own journey, help you through the tough days, and show you that happiness can be found in the midst of grief.

You can follow me on Instagram at @kellcann