Lack of Vision


The bi-products and aftermath of grief are so numerous, that even now, I’m sure there are things that I haven’t even realized yet that will affect us. Grief is like glitter, a song and quote suggest. And it makes perfect sense to me that years from now while I continue to meander through life after loss, a glint of grief will still find me. It’s kind of like when your toddler dumps out the entire glitter container and months later you are still seeing little shiny bits of it in the weirdest unexpected places. Grief’s presence will continue to make itself known in some measure for the rest of life.

Knowing that can look so daunting when all you know is the raw empty turmoil or devastation, and you can’t imagine a future without pain, and you don’t fully know what normal or better even feels like. Some experiences change absolutely everything.

One bi-product of grief that I have personally struggled to recover is a sense of vision. Vision meaning a desired or purposeful goal, aim, and outcome that one is wholly dedicated to pursuing. It’s the thing that drives and directs life that you can put your heart into.

My husband and I shared a common vision in our marriage that we pursued wholeheartedly. It brought fulfillment, meaning and motivation to share our beautiful life and ambitions together. So, it goes without saying that our common vision got blown out of the water.

So now, what is my vision as an individual? What does God have for me in this season of life? And what is the greater vision to the raising of our babies who are so quickly growing up? How can I give them the life God wants me to as a solo Mom, when I know that besides God himself, the most important and crucial thing that they need is the thing that I can’t give them, meaning their Daddy. And their Mommy and Daddy raising them together. A complete family unit with its own identity and vision. What do you do when this is no longer an option? Well, the only answer I know, is that you trust God even when it is terrifying and painful to do so, and you take it one day at a time. Or if that isn’t possible, then just one hour at a time, or minute by minute as He gives you the strength to keep inching forward.

I wonder, have you ever struggled with finding your vision since you became a widow?

In Hope & Prayers,

From This Widow Mama


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Dorothy lost her beloved husband Oct 2021 to a very unexpected bacterial pneumonia that quickly became septic shock. Her other half and best friend was born with a serious congenital heart defect. Because of that, she had always feared the possibility of being a widow, but she thought it more likely to be due to his heart, and more likely when her husband was in his 50s after the children were grown. Instead, he graduated to heaven just one week before turning 34. Dorothy was 36 with young sons ages 5 and 16 months who adored their Daddy. In less than 48 hours, the life Dorothy and her beloved husband so carefully built together shattered. They were blessed to share just over 8 wonderful, joyous and fun years of marriage. While her heart is so thankful to God for having had their journey together, she has struggled since his death with feeling hurt and let down by God. She has felt so devastated that their love story was short and ended so abruptly. Join her as she shares her unfolding journey of grasping to faith in Christ as she journeys through love, loss, single parenthood, honoring her husband's legacy and guiding her sons through their grief and life without Daddy.