One of my most fatal flaws as a human is my inability to see the world in any sort of spectrum. I spend most of my days thinking, feeling, and living in absolutes. To me, this “black-and-white thinking” provides structure ...
It is all too well known that many of us get cut loose from our friend groups when our loss becomes too much for others to take. This doesn't always happen, but it does happen a lot. As a consolation ...
The question was far from my thoughts when I lost the love of my life. To love again or stay "single" for the rest of my life... There was no comprehension of being able to, let alone wanting to, love ...
Add this to the unending list of peeves that plague the widowed: when people refer to our late spouses as exes! Unless you were permanently split up when they passed, these are not our exes. (And for those who were ...
Second Chance When Matt first died my heart was so broken I didn't think I would try to love again. After a year I thought maybe I could but realized I couldn't. But I took the time to heal ...
Day by Day I have been just holding it together. So many things are happening and on top of it I am in that time of year that I hate now. My Birthday weekend was our last good weekend. ...
A new way of looking at setbacks. We all know the idea of taking two steps forward, then three steps back, or whatever other number combinations you can think of. (Paula Abdul even sang about it!) This concept says ...
Letting Go “Letting go.” Two words that sound so simple to accomplish, but yet confuse me. I’m not sure I even know exactly what real, honest and true “letting go” looks like or feels like on a grief journey. ...
For widows who hope to find love again, and maybe even remarry, you absolutely can. I've written quite a lot about dating, breakups, and new relationships post-loss. Early on that consisted of a lot of pitfalls and cautionary tales. Everything ...