The Ring

“You still wear your wedding ring”?  Yes, that’s a question I was asked recently by someone. I wanted to say (don’t you see it on my ring finger?) But instead I took a breath smiled then politely said ‘Yes, I am still wearing my wedding ring”

 My Devan transitioned 26 months, 2 days, 3 hours, 13 mins and 45 seconds ago. Which still feels like yesterday for me. 

I have worn my ring for over 20 years which is longer than the time he has been gone. When I am ready to remove my ring that will be between God and I. I also wear my Devans ring on my right hand which I had resized to fit me. I often times forget that I have them on. And I also have moments when I just look at them and reflect back to many different memories that both rings hold.

 I will not allow someone else to dictate nor decide when I should remove them because they think I should. I find it very interesting when others offer unsolicited advice. And or opinions especially when they have not experienced any thing remotely close. Nonetheless, I have learned to use moments like these as teachable moments for others. 

There are so many levels and layers to losing your spouse. And I would’ve never thought I would have to walk through them. The emotional layers & levels, financial layers & levels, spiritual layers and levels, mental and physical layers and levels are very deep rooted. And each individual has to go through each one of these on their own time and at their own pace. 

Once again no one can truly tell anyone else how to grieve , when to grieve nor how long. I personally don’t believe that it’s a right nor wrong way to do it. I am still walking in the surreality of it all and I often say I am doing it all ‘Moment By Moment”  

So with all of that being said never allow anyone to judge you for the way you have chosen to operate in your new normal of life.  Don’t allow anyone to put boundaries, barriers on you. Because when you have been married to your spouse and then one day they’re no longer here the ring should be the least of anyones concerns. 

If wearing your ring or whatever you need to do  gives you some  solace I suggest that you do whatever you feel works for you. So never apologize for how you have chosen to move forward and live.

“Moment By Moment”

‘Kimberly Nicole Johnson’

About 

Who is Kimberly Nicole Johnson a GOD fearing Author, Woman, Widow, Wife Mom, Nana, Daughter, Sister, Friend, Entrepreneur, Breast Cancer Survivor,

Kimberly helped build their business/brand side by side with her husband they were the 1st Black owned /operated husband & wife team with a business in Cincinnati, Ohio OTR(Over The Rhine) Incredible Creations Beauty & Barber Salon their Brand is very well known to the masses. Kimberly & Devan were more than regular salon owners she is a Platform artist, educator, and a mentor they worked each day together as one most of all they were best friends. They had no idea what they were about to face…….

Kim fought and WON the fight over Breast Cancer in 2014 with her husband Devan Johnson the Love of her Life by her side every step of the way never leaving her to do it alone to then turn around and lose him suddenly & unexpectedly in 2016. She thought her hardest battle was in 2014 but when she lost her husband she realized that NOW was a crossroad for her. So she has decided to rise from the storm and walk authentically & truthfully in her purpose! GOD showed her how to “Unleash the Power of Greatness’ within.

Kim has been thrust into her purpose of being an Author, releasing her first book "WALKING WITHOUT MY CANE" as a motivational speaker she is going to share, motivate & inspire others that a happy, fulfilling life is possible after facing such heartaches. Life can and will go on and it will be amazing despite what the past looks like. She will show others that your past doesn’t have to dictate how your future looks. She will show others how to be authentic, walk in their truth, live in the moment & Just Be.

Visit my website here; https://www.kimberlynicolejohnson.com/