For widows who hope to find love again, and maybe even remarry, you absolutely can.
I’ve written quite a lot about dating, breakups, and new relationships post-loss. Early on that consisted of a lot of pitfalls and cautionary tales.
Everything one could possibly want to know about being widowed and finding love again can be found online or in a book. It can be incredibly inspiring, but also very daunting.
So when I come across a real live human being who has been in this situation and did, indeed, find themselves saying “I Do” I am all ears.
A few weeks ago I had a kind, elderly man in my chair at the salon.
He had no hair, just a long beard he wanted to be trimmed up as he was getting married that weekend.
Then he went on to tell me how he’d been a widower for fourteen years and never expected to find another love, again in his lifetime.
But there he was, sprucing up his beard for his imminent nuptials.
Of course, we got into quite a lengthy conversation about widowhood and the devastation of losing a spouse.
He wound up in my chair much longer than a simple beard trim should take, but the conversation was priceless.
His eyes sparkled when he spoke of his new bride, and I was very humbled to have been able to witness this with a complete stranger.
I am a firm believer in finding love after loss – I have my own tale of finding someone wonderful and amazing after I thought my world had ended.
But it’s just so inspiring to see it happen to others.
Some widow/ers don’t want to remarry and that is fine too. But if that’s what you want, just know you can. And don’t let age stop you. Another customer was telling me how her 92-year-old grandmother just married a man who is 102!
Getting older doesn’t bar us from finding love.
As widows we all know that life is fleeting, so if you find love, embrace it.
It doesn’t matter if you’re 22 or 102, older people look just as lovely in their wedding attire as the younger folks.
And they make their fiancé’s eyes light up just as much, as well.
I know, because I’ve seen it.
Photo via Fine Art America & https://www.awesomeinventions.com/wedding-photographs-of-elderly-couples/
About Layla Beth Munk
Layla Beth Munk is a blogger & author who was thrust into this widowhood journey abruptly and tragically on February 11, 2018. Her husband of 12 years had ended his pain once and for all. She soon made the decision that she would not let his final decision define the rest of her life or their daughter’s life, so with her sense of humor at the helm, she started writing about her newfound station in life. Grief waves still get to her, and probably always will, but with the help of her fellow widows as well as friends and family, she has been able to realize her dream of becoming a published author! Layla is so grateful to Hope For Widows Foundation for providing this level of support to her, and so many others! Layla has two amazing children, one who is grown and one who is almost grown. She lives in eastern Oregon and has a wellness & beauty background. Layla enjoys writing poetry, watching anime, and homeschooling her daughter.
Her blog can be found at laylabethmunk.medium.com and her debut novella, 24 Hours in Vegas, is available on Amazon.
Thanks for sharing this. I personally feel that I could never find such a love again. This was both of our second marriage and we were so perfectly matched and both felt so incredibly lucky to have found each other. But it does seem lonely to never have a partner again. Your blog made me feel like life still can be lived happily.
Thanks