This month I turn 33. An age my husband never got to be. He crossed over the month before his 33rd birthday. I don’t want to turn 33. I don’t even want to be 32. What I actually want is ...
Perhaps one of the most well known terms to a widowed person is “moving on.” And as well intentioned as it usually is, it is one that we may invariably start strongly disliking. I know for me, the whole “when ...
Today I was thinking back to five years ago. It had been almost 2 years since Jared died. 23 months to be exact. And I realized just how much healing can happen in one weekend. And just how much one ...
How are you? This question is a loaded one for me. I just think do I know this person. Do they really want to hear how I am doing? How vulnerable do I want to be with them? Will my ...
Suggestion: See a counselor/therapist/psychologist/life coach/spiritual guide/ whatever you may call it, seek them out. If the first, second or third said guru does not help, it’s not you, it's them. It is a process to find a helper that actually ...
I often hear people say to their spouse I can’t imagine life without you. But unfortunately, I can. And so can my widowed friends. When I met my late husband, he was considered terminally ill. He had cystic fibrosis and ...
I I lost my husband. My best friend … and thru the gift of hindsight, I realize I lost so much more. For me, a HUGE loss is that of a constant companion. S𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝘆 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝘀. The other losses no one warns ...
"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." Proverbs 4:23 Guard your heart. That is what I do now. I want the normal of years past but in doing our normal things I am opening ...
Grief waves sneak up sometimes and others there are little wakes that come in first reminding me that a big date is coming that I need to brace my heart for. Tomorrow is going to hurt. My heart is going ...
As the years since Jared‘s death grow longer, I am worried I will forget. I am worried I will forget the special things about him. The blue of his eyes. The sound of his laughter. The touch of his ...