There is no timeline for grief; we grieve for as long as we need. My timeline, however, has a new update: I am no longer in any kind of active grief. I think I've been here for a while now, ...
I read a blog, "He Feels Farther Away," by Dorothy Swanson about what she calls “the middle” part of her grief journey. It’s the place we come to after the shield of shock has long worn off, the tears ...
As I get farther and father away from the last time I held my husband in my arms, and the last time I told him I loved him to his handsome face I find a sad thing is happening. ...
It wasn't too long after Bret left us that I * thought * I made peace with the whole thing. Or at least as much as I could have at that given point in time. I forgave him very early ...
Bret's "angelversary" snuck up on me this year. At first, that shocked me. But then I realized that it has been nearly a decade, so maybe I shouldn't be quite so shocked after all. A lot of time has passed, ...
The older my sons get, the more aware they are of the void in their lives created by their Daddy's passing. Today my oldest participated in a capture the flag match led by the father of some of his classmates. ...
I've written in depth about dreaming about our departed loved ones. Early on, it was so hard to dream about my husband following his death, but once I did, they were oftentimes pretty amazing. One in particular really stands out, ...
This time last year, I had a feeling that things might be different for me a year from then. I didn't know how, but I made sure to make a mental note about how different things were going to be. ...
It is so challenging to be a young widow raising children alone. It is a lonely demographic and bearing that title can leave you feeling displaced. A little "Googling" online concludes that about 7% of the population age 18 and ...
Photo Credit: Sonney Wolfe A reckoning with the expectations of grief – six years in At the end of each teaching semester, I’ve started asking students to answer one question. If you ask me, it’s the most important question they ...