I am divorced. And I am a widow. I’m a divorced (not remarried) widow. Can those two identities co-exist? I’ve asked myself this question a lot over the past three years and I still haven’t found an answer. AJ and ...
When David died, I never knew how to answer "how are you doing?" Sometimes they would respond to their own question with "day by day, I guess, eh? Yup just day by day," why were people asking rhetorical questions? What ...
I was having a hard time figuring out what to write about this week. There is so much I want to share with my fellow widows. I started writing a different post, but it felt like this post should come ...
This past week, I was up at our cottage in northern Michigan, and I joined the family at nearby Ocqueoc Falls. Rick used to make fun of the falls. When I first took him there, he kept laughing as he ...
Suggestion: If you have people that count on you on a daily basis, try and get your shit together enough to be there for them at least briefly each day. If those people are your children, they need you. ...
Perhaps one of the most well known terms to a widowed person is “moving on.” And as well intentioned as it usually is, it is one that we may invariably start strongly disliking. I know for me, the whole “when ...
Disclaimer: This is written based on things I have felt going through my personal journey as well as things I have heard other widows say. Obviously, I can’t truly speak for all widowed people nor do I feel as passionately ...
I met him when I was 26 years old and we married at 28. By 42, I was a suicide widow and single mom to two children. Post-loss, I found healing in somatic and family therapy, yoga, meditation and other ...
Suggestion: See a counselor/therapist/psychologist/life coach/spiritual guide/ whatever you may call it, seek them out. If the first, second or third said guru does not help, it’s not you, it's them. It is a process to find a helper that actually ...
I I lost my husband. My best friend … and thru the gift of hindsight, I realize I lost so much more. For me, a HUGE loss is that of a constant companion. S𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝘆 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝘀. The other losses no one warns ...